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What you are requesting is hardly unusual-it’s so common that I’m well aware that many women reach orgasm most easily through oral sex, and I haven’t been lips-to-lips with a woman in nearly two decades.
However, a truly conscientious partner should be thinking outside himself and cultural indoctrination. I couldn’t fault him for that if it’s what he enjoys, and at any rate, he lives in a culture that venerates PIV sex, particularly in porn, which so often ends with depictions of perfect mutual climaxes as a result. Your description of his behavior makes me think that he sees intercourse as the main course. It might be time for a more philosophical conversation about sexual priorities. I know I need to suck it up and talk to him at some point, but I don’t have the words because I’ve never had to have this conversation before. Plus, I’m afraid to bring it up now, when we’re not seeing each other due to the lockdown. I know I need to talk to him about this, but I’m afraid to. Another time I was on top and said, “This feels so good, I really want to come,” but when I didn’t do so before he did, there was no follow-up to finish me off. I’ve tried hinting in other ways-for example, we were cuddling, and I said I’d like his hands somewhere else, and he started fingering me … but as soon as I said how good it felt (and it did feel said!), he stopped and climbed on top. And when he does, I’m really in my head because I don’t know if he’s enjoying it. I asked him early on if he liked going down on women, and he said it was “hot” kind of halfheartedly since then, I can count the number of times it’s happened on one hand, and only because I asked. The sex is electric, but it usually progresses from making out to penis-in-vagina pretty quickly, and after he finishes, there’s no attention to me. You can reminisce about sex you enjoyed or even discuss porn that you’ve watched if you have in fact done so and are comfortable talking about it.Įnter my current partner, whom I’ve been with for about four months and who doesn’t seem to care if I have an orgasm. If there is anything you’ve been wanting to work on regarding your sex life-either in terms of repair or expansion-discussing such things would be one way of keeping engaged sexually without having the kind of virtual sex that is bumming you out and not getting you off. That said, you could attempt to exploit this moment as an opportunity for improvement. The only juices of yours they’re likely to get going are tears out of your eyes. Besides sexting, you have the option of video chatting and writing erotic letters, but I suspect both would also be unsatisfying. At no point in human evolution prior to this moment has it made sense to rely only on technology for sexual connection. Not everybody is going to take to camming. While many are attempting to adapt their sex lives to the screen-based confines of contemporary communication, there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to do so. Is there a way I can change my mentality to get over this? Or some other activity you’d suggest? I’ve given pretty neutral responses about it so far and haven’t told him how emotional it makes me, because I don’t want to just end our sex life indefinitely without providing an alternative. It’s kind of a paradox because I do want to maintain a sexual relationship with him. It kills me to use words like if we were together and I would when I don’t know when we’ll be together next. Like, slightly turned on but then crying afterward because of how much I miss him. I’ve been open to it and don’t hate it, but it just makes me so sad. We recently tried sexting with words and pics, and he loves it. We’re both 21, still in college, and have had to move back in with our parents after leaving university housing (3,000 miles away from each other). My sweet, wonderful boyfriend and I have been separated by the coronavirus. Thanks for signing up! You can manage your newsletter subscriptions at any time.